Laura Bilotta is an Author, TV Host, Dating Coach, Matchmaker and Founder of successful dating website Single in the City dot ca. Since its early beginnings, Laura’s efforts and expertise have allowed Single in the City to become one of the largest event based dating companies in the Greater Toronto Area.
Laura’s expert knowledge of dating etiquette, relationships, and human behaviour form the base of her experience.
So why is it that so many guys and girls (yes girls too) fail miserably in avoiding the move from the Inbox to the trash can?
Extensive research into online dating statistics show that there are some set rules that we all need to follow.
Let them know what you have in common and ask a few pertinent questions. A basic rule to follow is to avoid overtly physical compliments in your online dating first message as this can send the wrong signal – in fact, our Kiwi members voted sexual innuendo as one of their biggest online dating no-nos!
To avoid being taken the wrong way, you are best off chatting about your compatible personalities – you may truly mean your compliments but, until you know each other better, it is safer to keep such flattery to yourself.
It can be intimidating to write a message for a perfect stranger in hopes of finding a love interest online, but all you need is practice and a little finesse.
Netspeak is the main culprit when it comes to unsuccessful first mails.
I’ve been doing the whole online dating thing on and off for years now and let me just say, I’ve had the entire range of good, bad and ugly messages arrive in my inbox.
There was a time I even created a blog to showcase some of the best of the worst because I felt the world should share in the horror with me.
Thus making an introduction easier and far less intimidating.
If rejection happens it’s not as personal or awkward (usually).In an Elite Singles survey, our members were asked how they decide whether they want to go on a date with someone they’ve met online.